It was that time of evening. I was tucking my young one into bed. To set the stage, he is nearly 4, very friendly and acutely self aware, but as most kids this age they move fast, very fast - I am left to wonder; Did he see that? Did he actually hear me? Was he listening? Tonight, I realized, the answer to all three of those questions is unequivocally, YES!
Some of my favourite and most memorable conversations of late are at this time, bedtime. Typically we reflect on the day, our favourite aspects, feelings and briefly touching on our plans for tomorrow. This is time is often my favourite time to connect as distractions are few - so, his thoughts and observations, on our life and on life are a plenty. I always ask, do you have any questions about anything, or is there anything you wish to share... as I feel its important for children to know their voice is heard and valued.
We touched on today's activities, our favourites, the lessons and the not so favourites.. from there we talked about some animals and insects typical to certain continents (we are learning all about the continents of late), our plans for tomorrow and exchanged an always vey heartwarming, 'I love you mummy'. It was silent for a moment... and while I thought, he would drift off he asked a question like I've never heard before from him.
He said: 'Mum, why isn't Donald Trump very happy?'
Me: 'Well that's a very big question, what do you mean? Can you give me more details?'
He said: 'He always talks so mean and angry. Why does he need to talk like that.'
(note, the TV is rarely on with audio, and if it is.. its only a news clip which aren't lengthly)
I said: 'Maybe he needs to feel important and valued.'
He said: 'Isn't everyone valued Mum? And, if he's president, isn't he important?'
I said: 'Yes, everyone is valued. But sometimes people get sad when they don't feel valued or important.
He said: 'So, is Donald Trump mad or sad'.
I said: 'I imagine he could be both mad and sad. Let's talk about this more tomorrow. Ok?'
He said: 'ok, good night'
Upon reflection, it became very clear, kids hear and see it all, even if they appear otherwise. Moreover, they absorb emotion, energy. They feel energy from the adult world and they don't understand why its run with as much ego instead of compassion or unconditional acceptance or love. How is it, with age and presumably an evolved intellect, life experience, potentially formal education, workplace experience we loose this freedom of feeling love and compassion and instead hide yelling whilst sad, scared or maybe even soul damaged. But, it, is the most powerful economy in the world is run by a man who is sad, perhaps scared and power starved searching for approval and validation. And, it is apparent to many - yet many others still seem to subscribe to this archaic, maybe obosolote philosophy. We only hope for our children, the leaders of today strive to create infrastructure that supports and compliments our children's vision of love, compassion and inclusivity into tomorrow and the generations to come.
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